The different types
of abuse are:
Physcial Abuse
Sexual Abuse
Emotional Abuse
Financial Abuse
Social Abuse
Environmental Abuse
Ritual Abuse
If you recognise
these behaviours as part of your life, please get some help and leave
before it's too late. If you recognise them in someone you
know, talk to them and help....many women (victims) out there are silently
crying for help!
Please note: that
in most cases I have referred to the victim as a woman and the abuser as
a man for easier explanation.
PHYSICAL ABUSE
- any unwanted physcial
attention
- kicking, punching,
pushing, pulling, slapping, hitting, shaking
- cutting, burning
- pulling hair
- squeezing hand,
twisting arm
- choking, smothering
- throwing victim,
or throwing things at victim
- restraining, tying
victim up
- forced feeding
- hitting victim
with objects
- knifing, shooting
- threatening to
kill or injure victim
- ignoring victim's
illness or injury
- denying victim
needs (eg. food, drink, bathroom, medication etc.)
- hiding necessary
needs
- pressuring or
tricking victim into something unwanted
- standing too close
or using intimidation
- making or carrying
out threats to hurt victim
-making her (victim)
afraid by suing looks, gestures or actions
- smashing things
- abusing pets
- display of weapons
as a means of intimidation
SEXUAL ABUSE
- any unwanted sexual
contact
- forcing her to
have sex, harrassing her for sex
- forcing her to
have sex with animals
- uttering threats
to obtain sex
- pinching, slapping,
grabbing, poking her breasts or genitals
- forcing sex when
sick, childbirth or operation
- forcing her to
have sex with other men or women
- forcing her to
watch or participate in group sex
- knowingly transmitting
sexual disease
- treating her as
a sex object
- being "rough"
- pressuring her
to pose for pornogrpahic photos
- displaying pornography
that makes her uncomfortable
- using sex as a
basis for an argument
- using sex as a
solution to an argument
- criticising her
sexual ability
- unwanted fondling
in public
- accusation of
affairs
- threatening to
have sex with someone else if she doesn't give sex
- degrading her
body parts
- sexual jokes
- demanding sex
for payment or trade
- insisting on checking
her body for sexual contact
EMOTIONAL ABUSE
Also called "Psychological
or Verbal Abuse"
- false accusations
- name calling and
finding fault
- verbal threats
- playing "mind
games"
- making victim
think she/he is stupid, or crazy
- humiliating victim
- overpowering victim's
emotions
- disbelieving victim
- bringing up past
issues
- inappropriate
expressionof jealousy
- degrading victim
- putting victim
down, not defending her
- blame the victim
for things
- turning the situation
against the victim
- laughing in victim's
face
- silence, ignoring
victim
- refusing to do
things with or for victim
- always getting
own way
- neglecting victim
- pressuring victim
- expecting victim
to conform to a role
- comparing victim
to others
- suggested involvement
with other women or men
- making victim
feel guilty
- using certain
mannerisms or behaviour as a means of control (eg. snapping fingers, pointing)
- threatening to
get drunk or stoned unles....
- manipulation
- starting arguments
- withholding affection
- holding grudges
and not really forgiving
- lying
- threatening to
leave or commit suicide
- treating victim
as a child
- having double
standards for victim
- saying one thing
and meaning another
- denying or taking
away victim's responsibilities
- not keeping committments
- insisting on accompanying
victim to the doctor's office
- deliberately creating
a mess for victim to clean
- preventing victim
from getting or taking a job
- threatening her
with anything (words, objects)
- refusing to deal
with issues
- minimising or
disregarding victim's work or accomplishments
- demanding an account
of victim's time/routine
- taking advantage
of victim's fear of something
- making her do
illegal things
DURING PREGNANCY
AND CHILBIRTH
- forcing her to
have an abortion
- denying that the
child is his
- insulting her
body
- refusing to support
her during and after pregnancy
- refusing sex because
her pregnant body is ugly
- demanding or pressuring
her for sex after childbirth
- blaming her that
the baby is the "wrong sex"
- refusing to allow
her to breastfeed
FINANCIAL ABUSE
- taking victim's
money
- withholding money
- not allowing victim
money
- giving victim
an allowance
- keeping family
finances a secret
- spending money
foolishly
- pressuring victim
to take full responsibility for finances
-not paying fair
share of bills
- not spending money
of special occasions when able (birthdays etc)
spending on addictions,
gambling, sexual services
- not letting victim
have access to family income
SOCIAL ABUSE
- controlling what
victim does, who victim sees, talks to, what victim reads and where victim
goes
- put downs or ignores
victim in public
- not allowing victim
to see or access to family and friends
- change of personality
when around others (abuser)
- being rude to
victim's friends or family
- dictating victim's
dress and behaviour
- choosing victim's
friends
- choosing friends,
activities or work rather being with victim
- making a "scene"
in public
- making victim
account for themselves
- censoring victim's
mail
- treating victim
like a servant
- not giving victim
space or privacy
USING CHILDREN
- assaulting victim
in front of the children
- making victim
stay at home with the children
- teaching children
to abuse victim through name calling, hitting etc
- embarrassing victim
in front of the children
- not sharing responsibility
for children
- threatening to
abduct children, or telling victim they will never get custody
- puttin down victim's
parenting ability
DURING SEPARATION/DIVORCE
- buying off children
with expensive gifts
- not showing up
on time for visitation or returning them on time
- pumping children
for information on victim's partners etc
- telling children
that victim is responsible for breaking up the family
- using children
to transport messages
- denying victim
access to the children
USING RELIGION
- using scripture
to justify or dominance
- using church position
to pressure for sex or favours
- using victim,
then demanding forgiveness
- interpresting
religion or scripture your way
- preventing victim
from attending church
- mocking victim's
belief's
- requiring sex
acts or drugs for religious acts
ENVIRONMENTAL
ABUSE
ABUSE IN THE
HOME
- locking victim
in or out
- throwing out or
destroying victim's possessions
- harming pets
- slamming doors
- throwing objects
- taking phones
and denying victim access to the phone
ABUSE IN THE
VEHICLE
- deliberately driving
too fast or recklessly to scare victim
- driving while
intoxicated
- forcing victim
out of the vehicle (when angry)
- pushing victim
out of the vehicle when it is inmotion
- threatening to
kill victim by driving toward an oncoming car
- chasing or hitting
victim with a vehicle
- killing victim
in a deliberate accident
- denying her use
of the vehicle by tampering with engine, chaining steering wheel or taking
the keys
RITUAL ABUSE
- mutilation
- animal mutilation
- forced cannibalism
- human sacrifices
- suggesting or
promoting suicide
- forcing victim
to participate in rituals or to witness rituals
Information from
Lady Care
Read some examples
of these types of abuse in Symptons
of Abuse
Although some of
these behaviours don't appear to be abusive they are still considered abusive
behaviours. Others are in fact illegal.
If you think you
are being abused, you more than likely are - if you recognise these behaviours,
then YOU ARE being abused.
Remember PLEASE,
if you recognise these behaviours as part of your life, please get some
help and leave before it's too late. If you recognise
them in someone you know, talk to them and help.
No one deserves to
be treated like this!
